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Should Worldly Customs Override Spiritual Practice?
May. 8 | Question: If the 49th day after the passing of the deceased falls on the first day of the Chinese New Year (CNY), can the 7th post-death chanting ceremony be done before that day? Answer: NO. It should be done accordingly on the actual day. Although...
‘Thank You For Your Service’, But…
Feb. 27 | Granted that serving in war is no walk in the park, what happens when soldiers return, trying to readjust to peaceful civilian life? Sadly, the bloodier the experiences one had gone through, the harder it is, even if home is much craved for. Appropriately,...
Thoughts On ‘The Haunting Of Hill House’
Nov. 27 | People are first haunted by their inner demons, before they become ghosts haunting haunted places, who might in turn become others’ outer demons. Haunted by unresolved and deluded attachment and aversion, both in this life and from life to...
Lost & Found In ‘The Sea Of Trees’ 在《青木原树海》遗失与找到自己
Oct. 17 | ‘The Sea Of Trees’ (Jukai: 树海) is an alternative name of Japan’s ‘Suicide Forest’ (Aokigahara: 青木ヶ原), with its dense foliage that moves with swells and waves like the sea. Believed by many to be very easy to...
How Regret Can Be Good (Or Bad)
Feb. 22 | Always regret evil done and good not done. Never regret good done and evil not done. – Stonepeace | Books In Buddhism, regret is not guilt. Guilt is an ego-driven emotion and as such is always non-virtuous, but regret can be either virtuous or non-virtuous....
How To Help Resolve Family Conflicts?
Dec. 28 | Question: I feel fear and sadness whenever there are messages and calls from a sibling and other family members – as there are quarrels between them. I tried to help, but feel totally drained, with the outcome often in vain. What can I do to manage...
10 Lessons From ‘The Fault In Our Stars’
Oct. 2 | There is no way to know that your last good day is your last good day. At that time, it’s just another decent day. – Hazel Grace Lancaster (‘The Fault In Our Stars’, by John Green) Here are 10 existential lessons inspired by the...
How To Prevent An Affair
Jan. 29 | Question: I find it difficult to observe the third precept of abstaining from sexual misconduct. I tend to have sexual thoughts of others besides my spouse. Please advise as to what I should do. I understand there is no quick fix formula, so is there...
How Right Is Your Livelihood?
May. 9 | Instead of engaging in a livelihood that links directly or indirectly to harming others, why not engage in a livelihood that links directly or indirectly to helping others? – Stonepeace At the end of one of my Dharma classes, a student asked an...
Guilt From Adultery Haunting Me
Feb. 7 | Question: I have committed adultery. The guilt is haunting me. Answer: Why not visit a temple, and bow to the Buddha for an extended period of time to express your remorse formally, and vow not to ever let it happen again? If you feel it is appropriate,...
Does Karma Go In Endless Loops?
Oct. 11 | As realisations can arise from negative karma’s ripening, negative karma can condition positive karma. – Stonepeace When April harms May, can April justify her action by claiming she is simply expressing May’s negative karma, that she...
‘The American’ Killer’s Private Hell
Oct. 18 | Who is ‘The American’? He is ‘A Very Private Gentleman’ (the novel which the film was adapted from) – though not very gentlemanly when he kills. Due to the nature of his livelihood as a hired assassin, he is indeed very...
