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Posts tagged with "guilt"
May. 8 |
Question: If the 49th day after the passing of the deceased falls on the first day of the Chinese New Year (CNY), can the 7th post-death chanting ceremony be done before that day?
Answer: NO. It should be done accordingly on the actual day. Although...
Feb. 27 | Granted that serving in war is no walk in the park, what happens when soldiers return, trying to readjust to peaceful civilian life? Sadly, the bloodier the experiences one had gone through, the harder it is, even if home is much craved for. Appropriately,...
Nov. 27 |
People are first haunted by their inner demons, before they become ghosts haunting haunted places, who might in turn become others’ outer demons. Haunted by unresolved and deluded attachment and aversion, both in this life and from life to...
Oct. 17 |
‘The Sea Of Trees’ (Jukai: 树海) is an alternative name of Japan’s ‘Suicide Forest’ (Aokigahara: 青木ヶ原), with its dense foliage that moves with swells and waves like the sea. Believed by many to be very easy...
Feb. 22 | Always regret evil done
and good not done.
Never regret good done
and evil not done.
– Stonepeace | Books
In Buddhism, regret is not guilt. Guilt is an ego-driven emotion and as such is always non-virtuous, but regret can be either virtuous or non-virtuous....
Dec. 28 |
Question: I feel fear and sadness whenever there are messages and calls from a sibling and other family members – as there are quarrels between them. I tried to help, but feel totally drained, with the outcome often in vain. What can I do to manage...
Oct. 2 | There is no way to know
that your last good day
is your last good day.
At that time, it’s just another decent day.
– Hazel Grace Lancaster
(‘The Fault In Our Stars’, by John Green)
Here are 10 existential lessons inspired by the...
Jan. 29 | Question: I find it difficult to observe the third precept of abstaining from sexual misconduct. I tend to have sexual thoughts of others besides my spouse. Please advise as to what I should do. I understand there is no quick fix formula, so is there...
May. 9 | Instead of engaging in a livelihood
that links directly or indirectly to harming others,
why not engage in a livelihood
that links directly or indirectly to helping others?
– Stonepeace
At the end of one of my Dharma classes, a student asked an...
Feb. 7 | Question: I have committed adultery. The guilt is haunting me.
Answer: Why not visit a temple, and bow to the Buddha for an extended period of time to express your remorse formally, and vow not to ever let it happen again? If you feel it is appropriate,...
Oct. 11 | As realisations can arise
from negative karma’s ripening,
negative karma can condition positive karma.
– Stonepeace
When April harms May, can April justify her action by claiming she is simply expressing May’s negative karma, that she...
Oct. 18 |
Who is ‘The American’? He is ‘A Very Private Gentleman’ (the novel which the film was adapted from) – though not very gentlemanly when he kills. Due to the nature of his livelihood as a hired assassin, he is indeed very...
Jul. 30 | Though ‘Aftershock’ retells the terrible tragedy of the 1976 Tangshan earthquake which killed 240,000, it is not a typical disaster movie. Its focus is on its tear-jerking aftermath – of the subtle yet sure spiritual aftershocks, of how it tore...