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Question: Is it alright to matchmake good friends who are good in character?

Answer: It does not accord with a Bodhisattva Precept in the Brahma Net Sutra to do matchmaking – as it facilitates the perpetuation of Samsara by encouraging attachment. You should encourage them to learn the Dharma instead. Whether they become attached or not will not be of your doing, while they might become spiritual friends!

We should want to unite people in the Dharma, as spiritual friends who help one another to be liberated from Samsara; not to unite people in Samsara, as worldly partners who ‘help’ one another to stay trapped in Samsara indefinitely. Without the Dharma, attached or not, one will stay trapped.

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One Response to “Should Buddhists Play Matchmakers?”

  1. 《佛说梵网经》菩萨戒律讲录:第三十‧经理白衣戒:

    ‘若佛子。。。经理白衣。为白衣通致男女。交会淫色。。。犯轻垢罪。’ – 【释迦牟尼佛】

    此戒正禁为在家男女介绍婚姻事,和合事,撮合姻缘等。。。「白衣」:指居士男女。。。又「通致男女」等事,即是作媒人。。。

    婚嫁。。。为生死轮回之桎梏。。。出家人舍尘学道,志在出离三界,亦应劝助众生出离欲海。今反而导之行淫,增加恶缠,岂是衲子之行为?

    – 慧僧法师解

    The article is in accordance to this Bodhisattva precept as taught by Sakyamuni Buddha in the Brahma Net Sutra.

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