When you over-idealise yourself now when you are far from being ideal is when you demonise yourself instead.
I asked a monk the question, ‘How do I generate boundless compassion for all beings?’ (怎么为一切众生发无量慈悲心？) His answer was to ‘Cultivate equanimity.’ （修平等心。）This means, to realise the ultimate equality of all beings, for we all have Buddha-nature (佛性). I am not superior to anyone, just as no one is inferior to any other. We are all ‘one’ and deserve one another’s help.
This reminded me of the simple but important parable of the two-headed-bird… A bird had two heads that shared one body. One day, out of spite, one tricked the other into eating a poisonous fruit, and the whole bird died as a result. Likewise, others and I share one common body. Who we are and our very survival depends on others. There is no food, clothing, shelter and all other forms of support without others. We are interdependent. Even one guy gone astray might be the beginning of society’s downfall.
The Venerable said, ‘Be careful not to become a compassion demon.’ (小心 – 别成慈悲魔。) Such a ‘monster’ would be one who truly thinks he is compassionate, who sees himself exclusively separate from others – that they undeniably need help from him. This causes inflation of the ego! A truly compassionate person never thinks of oneself as being compassionate. One would simply function the way one sees as the most appropriate and natural. While we should praise the kind, no big deal should be made out of ourselves being kind.
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