Question: I am the leader of a team, but I have a problematic team member who keeps rejecting individually delegated tasks. How can I avoid giving in to anger at him? As I am a Buddhist, I would like to be a good example, and not be known as an ill-tempered Buddhist.
Answer: I have a simple solution. It might be a little tedious at first, but it should work in the long run… Each time this person is uncooperative, ask for a quick meeting to graciously ask for discussion and a vote on the direction forward. If your direction makes sense, the wisdom of the masses should side you. If not, there should be better alternatives offered. It’s win-win.
Eventually, this person will realise the foolishness of troubling everyone and wasting their time, and end his pointless rebellion. This way of resolving issues arising together is part of teamwork, as led by you. This method can ‘weed out’ other potentially problematic issues too. Giving in to anger, however, is likely to only aggravate the tension.