Question: What would you do if you encounter those who blast their music in public transport? How should I control the feeling of being pissed off in me? Sometimes, their music is so loud that my mind is confused by it. I always feel like going up to them to tell them to stop, but I’m scared of being scolded by them.
(1) Take the opportunity to be mindful of Buddha’s name (nianfo) or a mantra in your mind, or meditate, to train your patience. When you nianfo well, you will be mindful only of Buddha’s name (e.g. Amituofo), and not the music, and anger will fade away. While it is good to deter public nuisances, it is also good to learn to not be deterred by public nuisances, to not let them rob you of your peace of mind.
(2) Walk over calmly, smile and say politely (without raising your voice), ‘Excuse me, can you lower the volume (or use earphones) as it’s too loud?’ If you’re gentlemanly and polite, you’re not likely to be scolded or intimidated. In fact, they’re likely to follow your request. However, do use your judgement to decide if this is pointless or even dangerous, especially when they are many of them, and that they don’t look reasonable, and that there is no one around likely to support you if they give you trouble.
(3) Take note of the details to report to the management when appropriate. You might not be able to change the situation this time, but probably, the management can help prevent the next?