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How To Help An Angry Family Member?

Feb. 8 |   The following can be read as the ‘victim of anger’ or ‘victimiser with anger’ for self-reflection. Question: I have a family member who is polite to others but vents his anger at home, to the extent of hurling things. Though...

Am I Creating Positive Or Negative Karma?

Feb. 1 | Question: I am a nutritionist who educates on healthy eating through talks and cooking demonstrations. As the company I work in produces animal-based foods, I am tasked to promote their benefits too. Does my job create positive or negative karma, as...

How To Relate To Fengshui & Bazi?

Jan. 25 | Question: How should we relate fengshui (Chinese geomancy)? Eg. ideas like how the bed should not face the toilet door? Answer Some fengshui principles are just common sense. Eg. Of course the bed should avoid facing a toilet, as there will be dampness...

Can I Eat Vegan Food Mixed With Non-Vegan Food?

Jan. 18 | Question: As I wish to commit spiritually to the vegan diet, is it okay to eat vegan food that is cooked or mixed with non-vegan food? Answer: Buddhists do not see spiritual defilements to be incurred merely by taste; but by whether there is consumption...

How Should Buddhists View Astrology?

Jan. 13 | Question: How should we view online circulated advice from some fortune-telling masters, about the fortune of those of different zodiac signs in the coming new year, about what best colour to wear and such? Is such advice authentic, or should we read...

How To Help One Who ‘Lets Go’ Too Much?

Jan. 5 | Question: Letting go of attachment is good, but I am disturbed by how a family member developed the habit of throwing away things, which include family items in a brutal and self-righteous way. Surely this is not how Buddhism teaches letting go? The...

How To Help Resolve Family Conflicts?

Dec. 28 | Question: I feel fear and sadness whenever there are messages and calls from a sibling and other family members – as there are quarrels between them. I tried to help, but feel totally drained, with the outcome often in vain. What can I do to manage...

Do We Experience Pure Coincidences?

Dec. 21 | Question: Are my similar experiences purely coincidental, or all due to X? Answer: In this universe of cause and effect, there are never any ‘pure coincidences’, as in totally random or chance events experienced. While what happens in our...

How To Encourage A Busy Housewife?

Dec. 13 | Question: My housewife friend said she is fed up with her spouse and children not helping with housework, and that her son stays home too much. Is there advice I can share? Answer: Her taking care of the family is right, since she is a full-time housewife....

Is Suffering A Blessing?

Nov. 30 | Question: Is it true that ‘to suffer is a blessing’ (吃亏是福)? Answer: No. If ‘to suffer is a blessing’, the Buddha would not have given a single teaching on how to overcome suffering at all. Yet, his central messages are...

Should I Work In A Prison?

Nov. 23 | Question: According to Buddhist teachings, is it morally alright to work in a prison? What if one’s work is linked to prisoners facing the death sentence? Answer: It is alright to work in a prison, so long as it is a fair prison, where the incarcerated...

Should I Donate Some Now Or All Later?

Nov. 16 | Question: Is the positive karma created the same, between donating all of one’s wealth before death, versus writing a will to do so after death? Answer: If the amount is the same, with equal generosity and non-attachment when alive and deceased,...

How & Why Do We Comply With Others’ Wishes?

Nov. 3 | Question: What does ‘compliance with sentient beings’ (恒顺众生) mean basically, and how do we practise it in daily life? It seems difficult, especially when dealing with children. Answer: In terms of complying, this is to go with the...

Who Decides Who Is A Bodhisattva?

Oct. 28 | Question: If a Bodhisattva is not supposed to declare oneself as one, who declared the famous Bodhisattvas to be so in history? Answer: There is a difference between announcing aspiration to walk the Bodhisattva path, and being an actual great Bodhisattva....

What To Relate To The Triple Gem?

Oct. 24 | Question: Is there a right attitude we should have when relating to Buddhas, Bodhisattvas, Arhats, the Dharma (the Buddhist teachings), the Sangha and Dharma teachers? Answer: What mentioned above included the Triple Gem (Buddhas, Dharma and Sangha),...