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Of all attachments and desires, none is more extreme than lust. With lust as a desire, its greatness has no other. Fortunately, there is only one [of its kind]! If there are two similar desires, of all humans under the heavens [in the world], no one would be able to cultivate the path!

爱欲莫甚於色。色之为欲,其大无外,赖有一矣。若使二同,普天之人,无能为道者矣。

– The Buddha (Sutra of Forty-Two Sections: Twenty-Fourth Section) 佛陀 (四十二章经: 第二十四章)

“I [the Buddha] will teach you a Dhamma discourse on bondage & lack of bondage. Listen & pay close attention. I will speak.”

“Yes, lord,” the monks responded.

The Blessed One said:

“A woman attends inwardly to her feminine faculties, her feminine gestures, her feminine manners, feminine poise, feminine desires, feminine voice, feminine charms. She is excited by that, delighted by that. Being excited & delighted by that, she attends outwardly to masculine faculties, masculine gestures, masculine manners, masculine poise, masculine desires, masculine voices, masculine charms. She is excited by that, delighted by that. Being excited & delighted by that, she wants to be bonded to what is outside her, wants whatever pleasure & happiness that arise based on that bond. Delighting, caught up in her femininity, a woman goes into bondage with reference to men. This is how a woman does not transcend her femininity.

“A man attends inwardly to his masculine faculties, masculine gestures, masculine manners, masculine poise, masculine desires, masculine voice, masculine charms. He is excited by that, delighted by that. Being excited & delighted by that, he attends outwardly to feminine faculties, feminine gestures, feminine manners, feminine poise, feminine desires, feminine voices, feminine charms. He is excited by that, delighted by that. Being excited & delighted by that, he wants to be bonded to what is outside him, wants whatever pleasure & happiness that arise based on that bond. Delighting, caught up in his masculinity, a man goes into bondage with reference to women. This is how a man does not transcend his masculinity.

“And how is there lack of bondage?

“A woman does not attend inwardly to her feminine faculties… feminine charms. She is not excited by that, not delighted by that… does not attend outwardly to masculine faculties… masculine charms. She is not excited by that, not delighted by that… does not want to be bonded to what is outside her, does not want whatever pleasure & happiness that arise based on that bond. Not delighting, not caught up in her femininity, a woman does not go into bondage with reference to men. This is how a woman transcends her femininity.

“A man does not attend inwardly to his masculine faculties… masculine charms. He is not excited by that, not delighted by that… does not attend outwardly to feminine faculties… feminine charms. He is not excited by that, not delighted by that… does not want to be bonded to what is outside him, does not want whatever pleasure & happiness that arise based on that bond. Not delighting, not caught up in his masculinity, a man does not go into bondage with reference to women. This is how a man transcends his masculinity.

“This is how there is lack of bondage. And this is the Dhamma discourse on bondage & lack of bondage.”

Translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu
[The above in essence applies for all sexual orientations, with differences in subjects.]

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2 Responses to “The Buddha On Bondage To Sexuality”

  1. zweiya June 15, 2012

    佛教与婚姻:爱欲是轮回的根本
    作者: 释了幻

    摘要

    “一切众生皆以爱欲而正性命”,爱欲是三界众生轮回的根本。如《圆觉经》云:“诸世界一切种性,卵生、胎生、湿生、化生,皆因淫欲而正性命。当知轮回爱为根本。”也就是说有爱欲之心,就会轮落三界之中而不得解脱。

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  2. Bodhati June 15, 2012

    I came across a blog that mentioned about this sutta, which I found it to be rather interesting. Well, if anyone is interested, just check it out. 😉

    http://buddha-and-me.blogspot.sg/2008/11/issues-of-sexuality.html

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